How is it - making friends?
In one of the songs of Vladimir Vysotsky there are linesabout a friend who is not afraid to go to the mountains: "So, as for yourself, rely on it!" Such a relationship can not be created simply by clicking the "Add to friends" button. They are built for years on mutual respect and sacrificial love, tempering in difficult life situations.
How does friendship begin?
Friendship is a kind of personal relationship based on mutual sympathy, inner affinity and trust. True friendship is inherent in such traits:
- Friends know about each other's strengths and weaknesses and accept them;
- Friends have much in common: interests and views, tastes and preferences, secrets, memories and experiences;
- Trust and confidence that one of the friends will not use the weaknesses of the other for their own purposes;
- The right of everyone to rely on each other's strengths.
Friendship directly depends on how strongand the links from which it consists are significant. If there are many strong ties between people, then the friendship is strong. If significant connections prevail, friendship is close, sincere. In this case, it is not necessary that both friends should evaluate their relationship equally. Someone puts more effort into them, some less, but since there is mutual affection and trust, these differences do not play a big role. Over time, some connections are destroyed, and new ones appear (or do not appear), and as a result, the friendship may grow or weaken.
How is it - to be friends for real?
True friendship is inherent in frankness,trust, sincerity and unselfishness. Friends spend a lot of time together, enjoying mutual fellowship and sharing with each other both joys and sorrows. If they value their relationship, they learn to forgive, forget their grievances and not quarrel over trifles.
Many people confuse the concept of "friend" and "friend". Undoubtedly, there are similarities between them: both characterize a person close to someone in terms of views, activities, belonging to one group (political, sports, religious), and also friendly to someone. Often friendships are established with colleagues at work. Their difference from friendship is that when a person leaves the collective, his connection with former employees either weakens or completely ceases. We also call a friend any friend we know, although communication with him can be limited to courtesy during short-term meetings.
With the advent of social networks, anothera kind of friendship is virtual. Friends (or "friends") in such networks can be called people who in life never crossed. In the network they chat, put each other "husky", comment on the photos, and when they meet they cost two or three common phrases. Of course, this friendship can hardly be called a pleasant pastime. There is an illusion of participation in the life of another person, but smileys can not replace sincere emotions: an encouraging smile, laughter "from the heart", understanding view, as it happens, if you really are friends.
Friendship in different periods of history
- Ancient Greek philosopher Aristotle singled out twothe main type of friendship: noble and the one that is based on interest. The only right to be considered true is a noble friendship, the second type was perceived rather as a partnership.
- Pythagoras understood this equality as equality andunity of all with all. He considered the most valuable type of friendship that exists independently of the social status of people. In early antiquity, selfless communication was a model of wisdom and virtue.
- In the Middle Ages, friendship was often replaced by profit. Personal qualities of man were inferior to his belonging to this or that estate. With the development of capitalism, the situation has changed, although even then there were people for whom commodity-money relations proved to be more important than friendship.
- During the Renaissance,creative groups of young poets and writers, between whom there were often close friendships. They were united by the ideas of humanism, freedom of the individual and creative activity.
In modern society, where individualism rules,true friendship - in weight of gold. People are afraid to open up to each other, hide their feelings under the guise of courtesy, forgetting about how it is to be friends. Trying to protect themselves from other people's problems, they choose personal comfort and tranquility. However, such easy and easy relations at the first difficulty break up, like a house of cards.
Therefore it is very important to appreciate true friends, to find time to communicate with them and be ready to support them in a difficult moment.